Body language is a powerful tool in any presenter or storyteller’s toolkit. Drawing inspiration from my grandmother’s notebook, let’s explore how the art of gesture and broader body language (once meticulously practised for public speaking) remains just as relevant today, albeit with some modern tweaks.
Why Gestures and Body Language Matter
Gestures and body language are more than just movements. They are physical expressions of feeling that bridge the gap between words and emotions. When you present or tell a story, your entire body naturally reacts to what you’re conveying.
As you walk onto stage and present the audience is already building a picture and opinion of you based on everything you do and you haven’t even spoken yet. Harnessing these non-verbal cues can make your delivery more authentic, engaging and memorable. Facial expressions, posture and even your stance contribute to how your message is received, often conveying as much meaning as your spoken words.
Guidelines for Impactful Gestures and Body Language
- Keep It Natural: The best gestures and body movements don’t look forced. Let your movements flow from genuine emotion rather than mechanical choreography. Relaxed shoulders and an open posture instantly make you appear more approachable.
- Express, Don’t Describe: Use gestures and body language to embody the emotion behind your words, not just to mime what you’re talking about. A smile, a nod or a gentle lean forward can express enthusiasm or empathy.
- Emphasise Key Points: Align your gestures and body orientation with the most important ideas or words. This helps reinforce your message and adds drama at the right moment. Step forward when making a key point or use an open hand to invite attention.
- Avoid Overdoing It: Gestures and body language should be neither stiff nor exaggerated. Subtle, fluid movements can often be more effective than grand, sweeping motions. Avoid fidgeting or pacing, which can distract from your message.
- Move with Purpose: Curved, outward movements of the arms and open body language tend to appear more relaxed and inviting than sharp or angular ones. An upright but relaxed stance conveys confidence.
- Finish Gracefully: After a gesture, let your hands and arms naturally return to a resting position. Don’t snap them back, let the movement dissolve gently and allow your posture to settle back into a comfortable stance.
- Make Every Gesture and Movement Count: Each gesture and aspect of body language should serve your message, clarifying or amplifying your words rather than distracting from them. Maintain eye contact and be mindful of your facial expressions.
Develop Graceful Gestures and Confident Body Language
Becoming comfortable with gestures and body language takes practice and learning. You have to be more self-aware and confident at the same time. It is an investment that pays off in more confident and compelling presentations.
- Loosen Up: Regularly stretch and move to keep your body relaxed and flexible. Tension can make gestures and posture look awkward or forced. Breathing deeply before you speak helps release stiffness.
- Observe the Greats: Watch skilled speakers, whether on stage, in videos or even in photos. Notice how their gestures, posture and facial expressions support their message.
- Practise with Purpose: Rehearse your talk in front of a mirror or record yourself. Focus on how your gestures, stance and facial expressions feel and look. Do they match the emotion and content you’re aiming to convey?
- The Anatomy of a Gesture and Effective Body Language
- Preparation: Start with the emotion you want to express. Let it build before you move, and allow your whole body to reflect that feeling, whether through an open stance or a thoughtful tilt of the head.
- Execution: Make your gesture in a smooth, curved motion, reaching its peak on your key word or message. Let your posture and facial expression support the gesture, reinforcing your intention.
- Release: Let your arm and hand relax naturally, completing the movement without abruptness. Allow your body to settle back into a poised, open position, ready for your next point.
Gesture is action to show feeling. It is the response of the body to emotion.
Chief Rules:
- It should appear natural
- It should be expressive of emotion within rather than descriptive of something without
- The climax of the gesture comes on the emphatic word
- It must not be stiff and laboured not over elaborate
- All movements of the arms should be in curves away from the body
- When an arm gesture has been performed the hand and arm should not be snatched away but slowly relaxed in the way that it is formed
- Every gesture must have a meaning and so heighten the meaning of the spoken word
How to Acquire Graceful Gesture
- Practice exercise to make the whole body supple, relaxing the muscles
- Study good pictures and statuary to see what is correct
- Feel the emotions and practice them before a mirror to show that you are showing what you want
The Composition of a Gesture
- The preparation – feeling the emotion
- The making – (the gesture proper) arm movements should all be made in curved lines and the climax of the gesture should come on the most important word
- The disposal – relaxation of the muscles. Relax slowly and do not jerk arm or hand away
Excerpt from my grandmothers notebook.


Talks, presentations, meetings and virtual meetings, gestures and body language are still cornerstones of effective communication. Let your body language reflect your passion and conviction. Remember: authentic, purposeful gestures and confident body language never go out of style, they simply adapt to the times. What my grandmother wrote years ago still applies as much today as it did then.











